Well here we are more than halfway through the year and we are still quarantined. For those of us living the single life boring sex, inconsistent sex, and sex that just leaves you feeling like “whet” is expected. However, those of us who have in-home D appointments may be experiencing some sexual disconnect with our partner(s), and that’s never a good sign. So here’s a few simple things you can do to bring the lust back into your love life.
Okay, I’m not just talking about costumes and handcuffs- although a little bit of a power struggle is always enticing. Roleplay is just the adult version of pretend play. Start your day off pretending to be someone else. Make something new for breakfast. Listen to a new playlist. Create a different energy and vibe. Tap into your alter ego and explore his/her/their sexual fantasies. Push yourself to unlock new ways to experience arousal and pleasure. It’s easy to feel bored when you’ve been stuck in the house with your partner for seven months. So switch it up! Fun is a very important part of romance. Where there’s fun, there’s pleasure.
Would You Rather
Remember how it felt to be out late on a Saturday with a bunch of friends from class and how every “innocent” drinking game would turn sexual? Those nights were always memorable and exciting! So bring it into the bedroom (or kitchen, closet, bathroom, car, etc). Pro tip: Don’t just jump into a sexual “would you rather” because then it’s just weird. Start slowly, and work your way up… or down. 😉
Jobs have been lost which means income is gone. Family members are sick. Friends are preoccupied and out of reach. Unarmed black men and women are being murdered by police officers. COVID-19 is not just affecting our physical health, it’s also caused a spike in anxiety and depression. Mental health is a key player in sexual health and performance, but sex is not the only way to experience intimacy with your lover(s). Sometimes the sexiest thing you can do is make space for someone’s feelings and experiences. Don’t forget to check in with your person.
If you or anyone you know is struggling with thoughts of suicide call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or visit suicidepreventionlifeline.org for additional resources and support.
We want to hear your stories! How do you make a Zoom/FaceTime date romantic? Tweet us @strangerclub__